As I said earlier this week (here and here) , nothing is good or bad on its own, it is all in our interpretation of events that make it so. And, if we want to see our experiences as positive then one way to do that is to ask the question ‘What can I learn from this?’ This automatically shifts your brain and body into a positive state and allows you to gain valuable insight into any event, no matter how ‘good’ or ‘bad’ it seems at first glance.
So, what where my lessons learned in 2016?
First: I am enough just the way I am
End of story. I don’t have to do anything, behave a certain way, get through my to-do list, or have a clean house (or clean kids :p) to be loved or feel worthy of love, respect, caring, and affection.
Many of us have high expectations and can be our own worst critics. So, over the course of the last year, I practiced using my results as feedback and in turn learn from them about what works and what doesn’t rather than using negative outcomes to feed into feelings of undeserving or unworthiness.
Using this new type of thinking has allowed me to focus on what I want to do and why instead of adding things to my list because I think I should in order to ‘earn’ my worth. (A weird story that was all in my head and unfortunately in the head of many of the women that I talk to – this is not reality, just a story we tell ourselves). It also lead to an outrageous increase in productivity, happiness, and feelings of fulfillment!
Let’s look at some examples…
- Recipe didn’t work out? Maybe it wasn’t a great recipe in the first place (new thinking). That doesn’t mean I’m a bad cook (old thinking). Learning: I now make recipes from blogs with a lot of positive comments (meaning that others have made it and it turned out well for them) and even if my recipes kind of suck sometimes, that’s ok. I don’t have to be a good cook and I don’t have to like what I made (nor does my family). We all have different skill sets and I congratulate myself on giving it a go and trying new things.
- Feeling low on energy and irritable? I probably haven’t been doing enough of the things that make me feel good (new thinking). That doesn’t mean that I’m just a depressed person (old thinking). Learning: I now schedule actions into each day to keep my mood and energy high and make these non-negotiable. My body, mind, and emotions are great gauges to let me know how things are going – if something is off in one of these areas then I know to make time for introspection and take a look at what feedback my body is giving me and trying to alert me to. I now work with my body and emotions instead of struggling against them.
Want to know more about simple things you can do to keep your mood & energy in check? I’m running a FREE week long high-vibe challenge starting on January 16th, 2017 in the Happy on Purpose Community. Click the link and request to join to group to follow along & participate – the challenge will take just a few minutes each day.
Or, do you want to go deeper? What would it feel like if you could make some of these shifts too? What kind of difference would it make in your life to know that you’re enough? I currently have a small number of openings to work personally, 1-on-1 with women who are committed to more Happiness & Fulfillment in 2017. If this sounds like you then book a time to talk here and we can see if this would be a good fit for you: calendly.com/healthappeal/connection-call